The process of losing some one in a relationship is not an unique experience by itself.

Mine is not more painful
nor heart-wrenching
nor wasted
nor upsetting.

There is nothing special in what is happening.
I have seen it before and shared other's pain.
I have been the one saying everything is going to be ok.
The one picking up the phone at midnight.
The one comforting.
I have seen it and said all the words and
i had understood.

In fact, the process has been the same
for one, for all.
The difference is that now i am the participant,
not the spectator.
Everything changes and i found myself at a loss of what to do.
Is there a protocol i must follow?

"Words are useless in times like these."